I’m sure if you’ve seen Disney’s Frozen, you’ll remember this exchange:
Anna: We complete each others’–
Anna: I was just gonna say that!
Being away from home on business can be stressful, especially leaving behind Wifey with our four always-wonderful, never-exasperating, easily-managed children. (Two of whom are teenagers. God help us.)
When we were dating, Wifey and I would go for long walks and talk about everything and anything. (Aww!) Sometimes when we’d struggle for a way to express a thought, the other would spout out the word or phrase.
And Wifey would joke that we were “eye to eye.”
Wifey plays the violin, and I play piano. We’ve learned over the years of playing together to sense where the other is going. Ok, I’ll be honest, I think I just play whatever I want. But she knows how to complement it perfectly, how to tell when I’m about to shift to something different.
In our frequent practice, we stay in tune to each other. In frequent communication, we keep that “eye to eye” connection.
I’m happy to say this experience has popped up time and again over the years, even while apart. Wifey has supported me all along, and we keep having these “eye to eye” moments. And 16 years as a military spouse is no joke!
Early on, it might have been “ear to ear” as we took advantage of the once-a-week 15 minute morale call.
With reliable email, exchanges sped up exponentially, and sometimes our emails back and forth would contain the same words or ideas.
Instant Messaging and chat rooms used to be a thing ten years ago–remember that? I don’t think we ever said “Chat to chat” but the connection remained.
And now Facebook Messenger and cellphone texts still afford us those opportunities to stay in tune with one another.
But I know there have been those times where we haven’t played in a while. I go one way musically, and she goes another. Or we can’t find our parts and end up doing our own thing.
Same with communication. When we get caught up in routines, stresses, or personal interests, there are those moments of disconnect. Usually this leads to confusion and lengthy discussions where we try to figure out “What the heck is going on in your head?!”
Sometimes it leads to arguments.
There’s a spiritual parallel: how “eye to eye” am I with Christ? Am I connected frequently enough that I can follow His lead and stay in tune with Him? Is His Word fresh in my mind, answering my questions and finishing my sentences?
Or has it been a bit since we last chatted?
When it comes to time and relationships, quality is born out of quantity. I can’t come in and declare “I have two minutes for intimate conversation, starting timer NOW. Go!”
But frequent connection makes for a closer connection.
And there’s never been a better instant messenger service than prayer.